reignite your passion with your spouseWhile we can choose to just dismiss dates such as Valentine’s day as one which stems from commercialisation, we can also opt to use this as a reminder about the need to take care of our primary relationship – that with our spouse. Why not take this opportunity to employ some ancient wisdom to keep the flames of passion burning strong and bright?

Here are some simple tips which might seem basic, even trivial, on first read, but I strongly urge you to carry them out for some quick improvements to your sense of well-being for both at your home and in your relationship:

1) Lighten up

According to Feng Shui specialist and author of Make This Your Lucky Day, Ellen Whitehurst, you can illuminate your relationship by placing a bright light in your bedroom. Perhaps the main lighting in your bedroom is already strong enough to light the room on its own, but a brighter, more luminescent light will lead to a brighter, more luminescent and effervescent love life. Apparently, increasing the wattage of the main bulb in your bedroom also promises to create a bright and positive future for you and your perfect partner – whether you turn it on often or not! So let’s see who’s getting turned on regularly!

2) Do the dirty

Whitehurst also advocates clearing the clutter in your Relationship and Romance sector of your house (back right-hand corner of either the main floor of your home, or the same in your bedroom). This can activate your relationship energies. If you kept anything there that reminds you of your ex or old flame, toss those items away, give them away, bury or even burn them but get them out of your relationship area! You need to be both physically and mentally clear for your relationship to blossom even further.

3) Welcome the new

In Feng Shui, pink is the main colour of romance and two is the number associated with it. Therefore when placing anything in this sector of your bedroom, or in the Relationship area of your home, try to place objects in pairs and preferably in pink. For instance, two ceramic candlesticks with two pink candles and lighting them as often as you wish especially when you’re preparing for a rendezvous with your beloved.

4) Get lucky

The Chinese believes that the symbol of the fish is awash in energies of abundance, wealth, harmony and marital bliss. The double fish is considered one of the single luckiest symbols on the whole of the ancient Taoist or even Feng Shui pantheon. So place a pair in your bedroom to denote the profound joy experienced in a physical relationship between two people who truly love and desire each another. Alternatively, you can carry it in your wallet as a charm of sorts that promises to protect as well as to bring more money. Double your pleasure and fun at one go!

5) Be grateful

There is a saying, “Where intention is, energy flows”. Some call it Law of Attraction. When you acknowledge the abundance and blessings you already have, you are creating more of same. Universal Law says that when you act ‘as if’, you are planting the seeds for manifesting in your reality and in your physical world – this includes your financial situation and state of your relationship. Therefore, watch your thoughts and consciously replace all doubt, worry and/ or fear with any of the tried and tested affirmations that resonate with you. Making positive self-talk a habit and see your life transformed!

This article was first published in The New Age Parents Feb / Mar 2013 e-magazine

By Dr Martha Lee

Dr Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexuality educator with the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. She holds a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, as well as certificates in practical counselling, life coaching, and sex therapy. She provides sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conducts sexual education workshops and speaks at public events in Asia.

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