The prerequisites of parenting are often difficult to manage especially if the parents are working for a living. As parents, we may not realize that our roles go beyond provision of physical and emotional needs. Our roles range from earning a living to giving our children the best education and disciplining them so that they will become better individuals someday. Sometimes, we find ourselves so indulged in these responsibilities that we tend to forget meaningful ways to ease ourselves out of stress. The combination of our work and responsibilities as parents lead us to anger.
Anger management is hard for parents unless they realize that the expression of anger towards children leads to bad relationships within the family. Worst of all, parental anger can damage your child’s self-esteem. No parent wants this to happen, so here are some of the best ways to deal with anger:
- Soothe Spirit. Anger emanates from lack of spiritual nourishment. When the spirit is not fully fed, it will be very easy for people to release anger. Talk to your spiritual leader or somebody experienced to get some tips on how to deal with stress and anger properly.
- Exercise and eat healthily. When the body is not properly nourished, it is more prone to stress and negative feelings. A healthy body will mean a healthy disposition to anyone. Lack of sleep, hunger and pains are triggers of anger. We may not know it but the body condition affects us in many significant situations.
- Create a schedule but be open and flexible. Teach children some routine. However, parents should be flexible enough that children’s immaturity may cause infractions from the schedules which you have set. Sleeping time and eating time are the main tasks and they are primarily routine. Let children adopt a schedule that fits their needs.
- Take some time out. Our being parents does not necessarily mean that we have to close opportunities for us to be with other people. A break away from our children and house chores is a great way for parents to rejuvenate and refurbish themselves with new ideas and strength. Let friends and other special people become a way for us to get out and feel refreshed.
- Let go of past anger. Don’t get yourself loaded with unresolved anger. Motivate yourself to fix them and take some time to wind up before harming your child.
- Stay away from situations that trigger anger. If you think the condition will stir up anger, turn your back from it and have some moments to breathe.
Sometimes anger is a necessary emotion as it helps children know when they are misbehaving, as they can see how their behaviour is bothering you. It is impossible to totally control our anger, especially as parents, but it is important to express it appropriately in front of children. Anger management is a parental skill that will help children manage their own anger in the long run.
How do you control your anger when dealing with your child? We welcome you to share with us your parenting tips.