Bringing Out the Best in Your Children

September 24, 2008

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We are our childrens’ teacher from the very first day they came to the world.  We have such a great influence to them that the values we impart brings them into their adulthood. I do not know how my children will turn out to be when they grow up but there is only one thing that I am very sure of.  That is, I keep reflecting on myself, correct myself to bring out the best qualities that I can to my children.

Be a role model to your children. Motherhood has definitely transform me.  I have learn to be more patient, more compose and I am in more control of my quick temper though there are still so much room for improvement. Children have the tendency to model after their parents.

Showering your children with lots of love. Love your children unconditionally.  Show them you love them even though they have messed things up and misbehave.  Give them a hug, revert back to your warm attitude after disciplining them.  Let them know that you accept them for who they are and what they do.  I know it might be difficult for some parents to express their love but it is important to say the 3 words “I love you” to your children.

Understand that all children are unique. Accept them for who they are and recognize their individual strengths and weakness.  Groom the children according to their strengths. One very good example is the difference between my 2 children. My son learns through reading and my daughter has very good modeling skills.

Always believe in your children. Believing that they are always doing their best and will also give their best.  Reinforcing their positive behavior will motivate them to do better

Always apologize to your children when you are wrong or blow up your top.  We parents are human beings too.  It’s normal for us to blow our top and scream at our children. If we think that we have made a mistake when interacting with them, apologize and let them know we make mistakes too.  Always move on from your mistakes.

Read stories that brings out positive values in life to them and relate it to real life.

Allow your children to make mistakes and teach them how to pick themselves up from there.  It is important to let them know everyone makes mistakes and the most important thing is to learn a valuable lesson from the mistake that they make.

Widen their horizon. Let them learn more things as their little brain are just like sponge which can absorb very fast.  It is important that we parents should not emphasize on the results of learning but instead focus on the process of learning.  We do not only want our children to learn the technical details but instead we want them to develop the correct attitude towards learning, which will ultimately bring them further in adulthood.

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